The Dismissing Side of Attachment

When I'm in my dismissible, right? Like these are not anti relationship by any stretch. We're not anti relationship. But once we get in the relationship and somebody gets closer to us, our attachment system gets more activated. And literally, so I might be in my autonomic regulation system. What does that mean? It means I'm self soothing. I don't need anyone. Because I get my goods from producing things or from being productive or from feeling efficient - it's not co-regulation. A secure, a secure adult is much more fluid. They're fine with being okay by themselves but when you get home, they get up and they greet you. You know,