Normalizing Dissonance and Asking For Help

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.

In today's episode, Chris and Dr. Abbie explore cognitive dissonance, focusing on its impact on self-concept and emotional regulation. They discuss how dissonance occurs when actions conflict with core beliefs, creating psychological tension. Emphasizing self-awareness and reflection, they warn against rationalizing harmful behaviors and highlight the importance of embracing discomfort for personal growth and identity development. [Dec 1, 2025]

00:00 - Intro

00:26 - Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro

00:43 - Intro Links

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02:40 - The Topic of the Day: What is Cognitive Dissonance?

05:53 - A Threat to Self-Concept

07:49 - Commitment to Consistency

09:51 - Freedom to Choose

10:51 - Changing Beliefs

14:19 - Trying to Escape

18:21 - Going From Bad to Worse

21:53 - Self-Awareness is Key!

24:55 - Growth Hurts

28:49 - Everything, Not All At Once

29:43 - It's Not A Flaw

31:11 - Wrap Up

31:36 - Next Month's Topic: Is Everyone a Psychopath?

31:52 - Outro

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