depo's answer was, aunt milly was an impermanent pattern of behavior in the universe and returned to the potential she emerged from. In the philosophic framework of eastern traditions, ego identity is an illusion,. The goal of enlightenment is to transcend to a more universal, non local, non material identity. So memories are contents of consciousness, but they are not consciousness, if you know what i mean. For the same reason that ripples are not water, memories are not consciousness.
In this expansive conversation, Michael Shermer speaks with Bernardo Kastrup, the executive director of Essentia Foundation. His work has been leading the modern renaissance of metaphysical idealism, the notion that reality is essentially mental. He has a Ph.D. in philosophy (ontology, philosophy of mind) and another Ph.D. in computer engineering (reconfigurable computing, artificial intelligence). Shermer and Kastrup discuss: materialism, idealism, dualism, monism, panpsychism, free will, determinism, consciousness, the problem of other minds, artificial intelligence, out of body and near-death experiences, model dependent realism, and the ultimate nature of reality.