A lot of women are conditioned in other ways too to like to believe that you know our happiness is conditioned on what he does. But I think a lot of times it's just it can just be really tough because he might just be in shame and he's like well if I tell her then she's gonna withdraw, right? And so they get really stuck. There are women who you know don't want to have sex when this happens and then there's some ideas or beliefs that have been passed down by society that like you know men actually need sex.