Why Fear Is Not the Best Motivation

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In this video, we’re going to talk about catastrophizing- expecting the worst! Catastrophizing is an excellent way to make yourself anxious and depressed and completely ruin your life! Oh yeah, and I’m going to teach you 3 things you can do to stop catastrophizing. What is Catastrophizing: Catastrophizing is a common cognitive distortion, or thinking error. It’s when we think of a current or future situation as a catastrophe. So for example, you worry that you’re going to fail a test. Then you imagine what would happen when you do fail- you’re going to get kicked out of school, end up working a dead end job, fail at life at life and die homeless on the street. And all this because of a test at school. Catastrophizing is imagining the worst. It’s taking a difficult situation and interpreting it as being horrible, terrible, and unrecoverable. We’ve all known that person who, if they got a “B” on a test wailed “I’m failing Math class”. Many of us have had that parent who, when we didn’t want to do our chores they said something like “If you don’t do your chores, your college roommates will hate you and no one will want to marry you.” Like in the story about the jack, Catastrophizing often starts with a genuine setback, like getting a flat tire in the middle of nowhere, but then the thinking error turns that reality into the belief that something horrible is bound to happen- “I’m going to get shot, attacked and robbed!”. At its root, catastrophizing is about our habitual response to challenges or shortcomings. So take a second, pause this video and ask yourself: How do you think about failure? When these habits become part of a repeated pattern, they lead to depression or anxiety- and people tend to imagine never being able to recover. Catastrophizing is a thinking error (aka cognitive distortion) that makes you anxious, depressed, and unmotivated.

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