And can feel it, she can feel s like, because women, i mean, like, they have such a sick sense for your intentions, you know. And if your intentions are astray right? You're justi like, i bought you these flowers so that we can have sex later, like, i made you dinner so that you'll do this for me, you know, they feel that d it's like and, and that's not attractive. I know. Like, i've had, i've had a few sex ther on the show, and they've talked about how a lot of women have, predominantly, most women have, what's called a responsive sexual desire, right? So that their arousal response to a man's, man's turn on, a man's like advance and those types of pieces. But not when it's from a place of entitlement. Rih, not when it's from a place of like, well, i made a grand to day, and so food on the table, and so we should have sex. It's like, well, that's not attractive, right? That's, that is a transaction, right? It's like, i did x, you should give me y. And that's not intimacy, right? But for us in our rational brains, it's like, somewhere along the lines that makes sense, right? It's like that stil a sense. So, ok, so i hear you saying, complacency can start to erod it. Entitlement can start to erode it. What else? I didn't mean to cut you off, but maybe i just let you keep going, bhat. Are ther other things that you've seen that start to erode and diminish that connection a

hundred %? And just to finish that thoughttlie, you're saying like, we think it's all logical. And i tell guys, i go, have you tried all the logical answers, like ya, but it's not working. And i say, do you know why? And they'll go, no, or they'll come up with ha, reason. An i say, the reason is is you're not fighting a logical battle. You're fighting asyco one. Your woman's most sexual organ is her brain. And in her brain, she fuck and hates you. She resents you, and she's not attracted to you for a lot of reasons. A lot of guys, you know, they let themselves go, you know. O mean, like all i gained 30 pounds a gabbut we were signd up for this thing till death do us part. I was married to a lean, trim, athletic dude, and now you got a dad bod. And honestly, it's not all the rage. And so a lot of guys let their standards slip. And it seems to me, it's like the weirdest thing. And i've been guilty of it. So, as i'm not sitting here on a high horse, i just told you my wife found me so unattractive she decided to leave me. So, you know, i've had to do everything to get that back and then some. But what i noticed was that, igo, why don't you want to your wife? Like, why won't you actually people say they want to invest and they want to build something, but they're not willing to get dirty or put any any effort, time or money into something. It's like, that's not investing. That's not building. You can't say, i'm building a good relation as you're sitting back passively just waiting for it to change. And so why don't you date your wife? And every, every group in the manusphere talks about date night. It's not like date nights this wow, revolutionary thing. But yet, i go, wen, s last time you took on a day thak, well, do you know we went to los and we did this. Im like, no, bro, this isn't sore time. Sore time is bore time. Bro like, come on, an i go, wellte like, well, what should i do? I go, all right, let's imagine a scenario. The scenario is this, every guy there was this hot chick an high school that every guy wanted to be with, whether was the head sheer leader or the, you know, head of the mean girls, there's always that hot lady, right? I g imagine you're single right now, and she shows up in your dms on face bookins and she's just as hot as she was, and you're just you. And she like, wow, i would love to go on to date with you. I go, what would you do? How clean would you smell? How clean would you be? How thoughtful and how planned out would you would you have a gift? Would you wear s that fit, or would you be wearing your older brother's suit coat. Like, what level of like, attention and effort and intention we put into it? E, lik o, i'd go crazy. An i we there you go. That's the level you need to be focused and ittentional with your wife. And that's why she'll want them focuse and put attention and attention on you. So that's the one last thing that i think that was a big ahafor of these last couple of years, working with couples, and now exclusively with just dudes, ofer like, the last eight months was actually, i think men and women want the exact same thing, and its presence. A woman wants you to put your phone down, treat her like a priority. She'd be a priority enough for you actually, like look her in the eyes and listen to her and have a conversation and go back and forth, right? Second thing that guy wants, he also wants presents. What d i mean, he most the guys that call me up that want to work with me and that have a problem that i can fix, they're always saying, dude, my wife just gives me petty pitty sex. It just feels like she's checking a box off a to do list, you know? She's not present, she's not participating, she's not engaging in this thing. So i've kind o realize that both people want the other one present.