The Hardest Act to Pull Off in Adult Life

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I think that's the hardest act to pull off in adult life actually isn't is refusing to hard and no matter what goes on. You know, when you can be like, hey, I'm soft, I'm tender, I'm hurting in my in my experience that helps me not, you know, do the, not defend, not defend and then defending all the other things stupid and violent and brutal. And not building a world against other people's hardness that then creates your own hardness. Right. That's right. The sensual experience of being in a male body in a way that isn't violent or aggressive or sexualized unnecessarily or hard,. Like, we don't hear about

Welcome to the Wintering Sessions with Katherine May.

This week, Katherine talks to Ross Gay about finding delight in dark times.

Ross’s practice of writing down a daily delight - a small surprise or pleasure that might otherwise go unnoticed - is the foundation of The Book of Delights, his bestselling essay collection. Here, he talks about the way that delight can sit alongside our fear, anger, frustration and grief, not to block them out, but to find a way to survive them. Along the way, we touch on fleeting moments of human connection, the joy of tending a garden, and childlike art of noticing.

In a first for The Wintering Session, Ross closes with a beautiful reading that meditates on the softness of living in a male body.

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