The Borderline Patient and Narcissistic Personality Disorder

borderline patients are incapable of taking personal responsibility for themselves and their lives or even understanding what personal responsibility really means indeed they expect to be taken care of it is always somebody else's fault. Their defense mechanisms are in place to protect them from being hurt or blamed if they have to take responsibility this means they are not the victim and this cannot be tolerated. When you tell the borderline patient how their actions have affected others they cannot understand what you are saying  and even if they do it is not something they feel they can control. If they have to hurt another person to get what they think they need they will do so because they are so fragile emotionally they feel under attack by everybody all the time