What would you say, Laura, when you so kind of along that same line, or would you say anything different to the person who maybe the friend doesn't see anything wrong, but you as the one is are beginning to see, you know, I think this friendship has run its course, or I'm moving away from the space that this other person isn't whatever the case might be, but you're the one who recognizes, oh, I think, I think it's time. Do you have any words for that person who's beginning to discern that maybe I need to break up with my friend? Well, first of

all, listen to yourself. If you are feeling that, don't just push it away and be like, Oh, shoot, I can't break up with her. I have to see her every Friday at the football game or whatever. You know, don't try to talk yourself out of your feelings, even though circumstances like that do matter, you know, the whatever your community looks like in this relationship. But listen to yourself. And you don't all it doesn't always have to be. I know I talked about that clear is kind and unclear is unkind. That is, in my opinion, those type of friendship breakups, where you have to be that kind of direct, are when there has been an actual rupture, there has been an actual transgression someone has done something to hurt you and you you cannot repair it, or you have started to have belief systems or actions that are very misaligned with one another. And you just feel like you cannot be in a relationship with someone that is on such a widely different wildly different path than you are. That's when the clear is kind and clear is unkind kind of friendship breakup comes in. If you are just having what we all have occasionally, which is just like, yeah, like, I just don't feel great about myself after spending time with that person or I have a lot on my plate or I just don't know that this friendship is really going anywhere. It's not feeding me. I'm definitely not feeding her like that, that kind of thing. This is when I think a friendship fade can be healthy, like can be done in a thoughtful, healthy way that isn't that isn't drama filled and that isn't like, you know, we just aren't on the same page. I don't think you have to make it like you're calling them out. You don't have to make it like you are superior in every way to them because for whatever reason, you might be feeling different from them. I mean, I guess there's not like a set answer here to you except for listen to yourself and I don't think that you have to cause like a big friendship fades are healthy. They just are. When you're the one being faded out and I have been you have been we've all been the one that's been faded out and that sucks. It sucks to be ghosted. It says to be like, I'm being phased out of this. Right. I know

what's happening here. But, but

let's take a step back and be like, you cannot have you have no control of someone who is trying to phase you out. Like it's like chasing, you know, the boy that doesn't like you anymore or whatever, like you're not going to convince him to like you. You're not going to be like, look how pretty I am. They're just not

that into you.