Exploring the 'Let Them' Theory

What if we told you Mel Robbins’ wildly popular “Let Them” theory… might be doing more harm than good?

In this Tiger Sisters episode, we take an unflinching look at one of the internet’s favorite self-help mantras — revealing where it actually empowers you… and where it quietly erodes your boundaries. From Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella to Taylor Swift, we break down real-world examples of when “Let Them” works — and when it’s just conflict avoidance.

Then we take it further: introducing “Let Me” — the mindset shift that puts you back in control.Mel Robbins made it famous. We’re breaking it open — and showing you how to use one of today’s most viral mindset tools so it actually strengthens your power, relationships, and clarity.

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝗹𝗹 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗲𝗽𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗱𝗲:

- What the “Let Them” theory actually means (and where it came from)

- Real-world case studies from Microsoft and Taylor Swift

- When “Let Them” becomes toxic — and how to spot red flags

- Why emotional labor is not your job + how to set clean boundaries

- How to shift from “Let Them” to “Let Me”

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⏰ Timestamps

00:00 Is Mel Robbins wrong about “Let Them”?

00:49 What’s in this episode

01:22 Sponsor: Read AI

03:01 What “Let Them” really means

04:50 Case Study: Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella

07:39 Cherie's friendship breakup story

15:55 “Let Them” in dating

20:26 The upgrade: “Let Me”

25:38 Case Study: Taylor Swift’s power move

29:08 5 ways “Let Them” fails

32:52 Mini exercise: "Ice Box"

35:50 Wrap up + next steps

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