authoritative parents are this combination of being demanding, just like tiger parents are. But the trick is it's also very warm, and it's very respectful of the kid's autonomy. A lot of jewish families are like that also. There's a very high level of expectation and gagement,. encouragement sometimes, you know, encouragement that feels more like authoritarianism or could be perceived as such from the outside. And what about autonomy? You don't have to speak for all jews, but like for your own family, how much autonomy do you allow your tokits?