Are You Listening to Women?

In my experience, there's not a whole lot you can do to be more attractive to women than actually honestly listen to them and connect in a conversation. This is absolutely listening. It seems weird to say, but listening to people is a skill that you can develop. And basically, i've to sort of tease it out of em. But what they're doing is they're not really listening. They're just sitting there almost like obsequiously, like nodding and everything in agreement. Like being almost like a nursemaid or a counsellor instead of someone who's listening and er acting.