Digital Conflict Has Real Consequences

In this solo December episode, I continue a month-long series dedicated to educating parents about the real dangers our kids face online. After last week's story about Adam Tate, today I share two more real cases—one involving sextortion and another involving swatting—that every parent needs to understand. These aren't rare events. They're happening quickly, quietly, and often right under our noses while our kids sit in their bedrooms playing games like Roblox, Fortnite, and more.

You'll hear the heartbreaking story of 17-year-old Ryan Lass from San Jose, who took his own life within hours of being extorted by an overseas criminal network. Then we break down the tragic case of Andrew Finch, a 28-year-old father of two who was killed after a swatting prank triggered a full SWAT response to the wrong house. Both stories highlight how dangerous the digital world has become—and why we must be proactive, aware, and deeply involved in protecting our kids' online lives.

Timeline Summary:

[0:00] Introduction

[1:02] Why December episodes are focused on online safety and protecting kids.

[1:50] Recap of last week's episode about Adam Tate and the Sean Ryan interview.

[2:32] Why sinister online activity is escalating and why parents must stay informed.

[3:02] Introducing two new stories: a sextortion case and a swatting case.

[3:48] Explanation of "swatting" and why even young kids are now doing it.

[4:48] Beginning Ryan Lass's story — a high school senior extorted online.

[5:38] How a predator posed as a woman and launched a rapid blackmail attack.

[6:07] FBI findings and identification of the international criminal ring.

[7:41] Why Ryan's case matters: he was targeted, not reckless.

[8:37] How modern predators manipulate teens using panic and pressure.

[9:02] Parents' blind spots about who kids are connected to online.

[10:17] Reminder that kids are connected to global predators—not just friends.

[11:03] Introduction to Andrew Finch's swatting case.

[12:06] The false 911 call describing a violent hostage situation.

[12:57] How Andrew Finch was shot despite having no involvement.

[14:01] Why swatting is deadly—and how it grew out of gaming communities.

[15:39] The seriousness of online conflict and its real-world consequences.

[16:33] How swatting and predator activity now infiltrate gaming platforms.

[16:54] Why Bark is one of the most effective tools for monitoring kids' devices.

[17:19] The need for proactive online supervision—like helmets for digital life.

[18:18] A recent incident with my own son that Bark helped me catch early.

[19:09] The urgency of protecting our kids from online predators.

[19:32] Directing listeners to the show notes and resources at thedadedge.com/1412.

[20:10] Additional resources including PenTester, YouTube links, and conversation guides.

[20:27] Free "Conversations for the Car" PDF for kids ages 5–18.

[20:45] Encouragement for parents: we fight this fight together.

Five Key Takeaways

1. Predators are organized, trained, and global. Kids on gaming systems are interacting with far more than just "friends."
2. Sextortion happens extremely fast. In Ryan's case, the window from first contact to death was only hours.
3. Swatting is no longer just a gaming prank—it's deadly. The Andrew Finch tragedy shows how quickly it can turn fatal.
4. Parents must stay vigilant, informed, and engaged. Safety now requires ongoing conversations and digital monitoring.
5. Tools like Bark can save lives. Monitoring texts, DMs, and online chats can catch danger long before it escalates.

Links & Resources Mentioned

• Bark Monitoring for Families: https://thedadedge.com/bark
• Ryan Montgomery Episode:
• https://open.spotify.com/episode/2GPd36fFPuLsBSlZp6WUvc?si=BPYACSoWRRin9MatFHMGbg
• Facebook Story Referenced in Episode:
• https://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=32876961955250751&id=100000911118224&mibextid=wwXIfr&rdid=nnmVU8LFIdec2oLO#
• PenTester (Ryan Montgomery's Cybersecurity Site): https://pentester.com/
• Ryan Montgomery's YouTube Channel (@0dayCTF): https://www.youtube.com/@0dayCTF
• NBC Bay Area News — Sextortion Case of San Jose Teen:
• https://www.nbcbayarea.com/news/local/4-arrested-sextortion-san-jose-teen-suicide/3865298/?utm_source=chatgpt.com
• ABC News — Swatting Incident Leading to Andrew Finch's Death:
• https://abcnews.go.com/US/la-man-arrested-swatting-incident-led-police-killing/story?id=52057251&utm_source=chatgpt.com
• Podcast Episode Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1412

Closing Remark

If this episode helped open your eyes to the realities our kids face online, please take a moment to rate, review, follow, and share the show. Together, we can protect our kids and make the digital world a safer place for every family.