Understanding Bids for Connection in Relationships

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Relationships, communication, and intimacy are the cornerstones of meaningful connections in our lives, yet they often present some of our greatest challenges. In today’s episode, leading experts explore the keys to fostering deeper relationships, improving communication, and creating lasting intimacy, offering practical tools to transform how we connect with those we love.

Today on The Dhru Purohit Show, we bring you a special compilation episode featuring Dhru’s conversations with experts on relationships, connection, and intimacy.

Drs. John and Julie Gottman discuss the importance of recognizing what your partner is doing right. They also highlight key findings from a seven-year study on happiness, including how to turn toward your partner and implement bids for connection.

Dr. Emily Morse explains why scheduling intimacy—even if it feels like a chore—is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship. She also dives into the "Three T’s of Communication" and how to initiate conversations about intimacy.

Esther Perel shares why letting go of the need to be right is essential, along with strategies to overcome the overwhelming feeling of disconnect when your partner doesn’t see your point of view. She breaks down how all fights connect to core pillars and offers tips on practicing mirroring for better understanding.

If you’re ready to enhance your relationships and improve your communication and intimacy, this episode is a must-listen!

In this episode, Dhru and his guests dive into:

• Evidence that your partner is doing things right (2:00)
• Seven-year study on happiness and turning toward your partner (3:10)
• Bid for connection and how to implement it (6:18)
• Interdependence versus independence (16:12)
• Scheduling intimacy (20:35)
• Who should initiate the conversation (23:35)
• The 3 T’s of communication: Timing, Tone, and Turf (25:15)
• Mirroring what you heard (29:15)
• Initiating the conversation and carrying the burden (33:25)
• The need to be right (39:52)
• The overwhelming feeling of disconnect (42:57)
• Catching yourself, listening, and mirroring (46:32)
• The core pillars: What all fights are about (53:15)
• Final thoughts (56:30)

Drs. John and Julia Gottman have studied over 3,000 couples and through their research have found the secrets to successful partnerships. The Gottmans help give individuals the tools they need to listen and connect with their partner while providing a safe space for conversation and growth without criticism or contempt.

Dr. Emily Morse is the host of the award-winning number one sexuality podcast, Sex With Emily, which has been on the air for nearly two decades. 

Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author, and is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? and How’s Work? 

Also mentioned:

• Why Nobody Is Having Great Sex & How To Make it Amazing with Dr. Emily Morse
• 4 Big Signs That a Relationship Won't Last and the Latest Science on Creating Love with Drs. Julie and John Gottman
• Why Some Relationships Don’t Last With Esther Perel

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