Are We Being Incongruent?

We don't actually need to be an entirely different person in each situation, she says. And so we have to recognize w what type of rules and obligations am i giving myself in certain situations? If i can speak up at work, what is it that stops me from doing that with family? We also have to look at how could we move those situations with intimate relationships closer to how we are in those situations where we will speak up - because we will always be better off for being more honestly ourselves.