The Epistemic Process of Grieving

A lot of people seem to go back to normal psychologically after the death of a long term spouse after three months. Could it be that we, we do the opposite of a discovery we arrive at the wrong fat imagine that we have an individual so if I remember correctly and I might be misremembering but Aaron is that you just understand your past relationship with her, and this leads you to also misunderstand your future relationship with her. Maybe we've been engaged in a sustained process of self deception in a way or delusion or something like that.