Are There Ways to Get Yourself to Feel Different About Things?

Pretending has a negative connotation, with people at their being false. But pretending is actually just a mechanical process that as let me grab or craft or hold an image of something before i actually walk into it. We've discovered that what we tend to bring to a situation is unconscious conditioning which we are often building because of our experience. And this will one day thread through our polise systems and the patterns in my psyche that may be limiting me to see how to get from here to there. In other words, if you walk into a meeting,  you don't have to deal with a bunch of jerks that don't know what they're doing. I'm always doing