How to Praise People for the Right Things

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Praise can sometimes do that so you want to make sure that you're taking a minute to make sure you are praising the right people for the right things and that you mean it. People just grasp at any random nice thing they can think of but they they don't really mean, he says. "I love your socks" is not what anyone wants to hear when someone gives them feedback on their work. The CEO was just trying to throw Anatoly a bone and instead he threw in a totally under the bus," she writes.

Kim Scott: Radical Candor Kim Scott is a co-founder of Candor, Inc. She has been an advisor at Dropbox, Kurbo, Qualtrics, ReelGoodApp, Rolltape, Shyp, Twitter, and several other Silicon Valley companies. She is the author of the book Radical Candor: Be a Kickass Boss without Losing your Humanity*. Key Points Show you care at a personal level. You can’t build a relationship that’s not personal. In order to care personally for someone, you have to bring your whole self, not just your “business” persona. Sometimes we get so focused on the work that we forget there’s actually a person doing the work. Begin by soliciting feedback, not by giving it. To get feedback, come up with a go-to question like “Is there anything I could do or stop doing that would make it easier to work with me?” Resources Mentioned Radical Candor* by Kim Scott Radical Candor podcast Book Notes Download my highlights from Radical Candor in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes Start With Why, with Simon Sinek (episode 223) How to Manage Abrasive Leaders, with Sharone Bar-David (episode 290) How to Get the Ideal Team Player, with Patrick Lencioni (episode 301) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.