The Inequalities of Heterosexuality

A lot of relationships and fiction that seem sort of emotionally egalitarian have some kind of extreme inequality built in like materially the topic that I say in my book by it next year. Like Jane Erin Rochester would be an interesting example partly because they actually do end up leveled by the end of the book but I guess I'm thinking about this emphasis on play. Is this kind of equality only possible within the construct of these novels not actual life? It's most improbable that anyone will ever know exactly who is enjoying the shadow of whom I've given our objector his fair share of program time. Any recommendations from the audience and in terms of equal love would be good.