The Importance of Positive Emotional Labor

I think positive emotional labor is emotional labor in a situation where ideally, it's either full part of an exchange or it's part of an open-ended mutuality. Sometimes once we start getting more intentional and start choosing, we realize I actually don't want to be doing emotional labor in this space. No one deserves your emotional labor just by virtue of you being a woman or a black woman or a woman in church or a wife. That's the first obstacle. The second obstacle is getting over other people pretending to not see it when actually they're extracting that form of emotional labor often in unequal ways than they would like to admit.