Would I Be the Asshole?

This one is titled, Would I Be the Asshole? If I told my friend's daughter that her mom led a cult, one of my male, closest friends, female, Beth, died 20 plus years ago due to illness. She had very strict rules about what was or wasn't acceptable behavior in order to be in her inner circle. And Ted often referred to her as a priestess. Meg has absolutely no idea what was going on. Part of me feels guilty for not saying anything so that she can try to get a healthy perspective on relationships and understand why everyone went no contact with her.