Taking the Frame That I'm Not the Main Character

The idea that i'm not the main character also helps me to be more empatic and compassionate. It's normal for us to get overwhelmed and emotionally dis regulated when our kids are struggling, especially if their struggles are significant. But having a tool in this case, hay, wait a minute, brendon, you're not the main characters. This is about your kid, or your wife, or your friend, or whoever. And it allows me to respond to them and support them in a more thoughtful and balanced way.