I think for women the problem is too is I think there are great intentions with these ideas and teachings about not looking at porn but it's when we're believing some of that it's really scary for us too. We don't have to justify divorce based off of yeah deciding that it's cheating or not we can still get divorced without all of that if we want toYeah which I think brings up a good point you'll have to tell me what your thoughts arebut I feel like I remember as a kid hearing that all the time if there was a divorce  and so could you imagine being a man who's like told like never never never ever like don't do it don't do