Ask the doctor if this were you. Of course the doctor doesn't have to play along they can answer by still because it's not their mother. It may be because it makes it so personal because we know that what we would hope for for our family members is often different than what we would want for our patients. And I think that's where it's like a big has them and it's not that I've always tried to practice medicine in a way that I think of my patients as my family members, which is actually quite a helpful way to think about it.