If you're trying to connect with people, just is being interested, being genuine. It's tough to fake genuine enthusiasm, and people pick up on that more than you know. Don't give up tat kind of life style approach deftly doesn't apply when trying to get to know others or make friends. Have the intention of wanting to learn - everyone knows something that you don't,. You know, if you just met someone in there, there hobby is car racing. I tink instead of asking those kind of questions, dos try to learn how to race cars.