Sally Kohn: There's so much pressure to find your soul mate. She says it can get us in a bit of trouble because it carries a lot of weight. We lower our standard, we negotiate our self-worth and all these things, right? So I want to talk about this quickly. What is a soul mate? And again, as he always say, I'm just a regular dude. How would I know what a soul mate is? It's just a word to me,. frankly, but I have given this a lot of thought over the years.