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They knew what they were doing.
They knew it would hurt you.
And they did it anyway.
We’re told, “Don’t take it personally. It’s not about you.”
But what if that message is exactly what keeps you in cycles of betrayal, self-blame, and repeated hurt?
In this episode of Beyond Words, Najwa Zebian reframes what it means to take things personally. Not as self-blame, not as shame, and not as “I must have deserved this”, but as a powerful way to validate your pain, revoke people’s access to you, and rebuild your definition of love.
If someone has lied to you, betrayed you, humiliated you, or consistently disrespected you behind your back, this conversation will help you say:
“You no longer have access to the perimeter of my life where you can get close enough to hurt me in that way.”
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Why “don’t take it personally” can become spiritual gaslighting
- The difference between internalizing blame and claiming your pain
- How to use hurt as data: this person knew what they were doing
- Why people who rely on your maturity count on you not reacting
- How to revoke emotional access and rebuild your sense of self-worth
- How to redefine love so it no longer equals being used, walked on, and manipulated
Najwa also reads from her book The Only Constant, exploring what it really means to take something personally, without making it mean you deserved the pain.
🎧 Listen when you’re ready to stop minimizing what was done to you, and start holding people to their choices.
Books by Najwa Zebian mentioned / related to this episode:
📚 The Only Constant
📚 Welcome Home
📚 The Book of Healing
Explore the books here:
https://www.najwazebian.com/books
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Najwa+Zebian
