Is She Saying, You Have to Provide Me My Happiness?

If you have a spouse that's unwilling to confront their role in taking vantage of you, you're in a tough spot. You can be resentful all day long about the respect you don't get from others, but you have enormous control over how you are treated by how you relate to yourself. The most important thing is tat you're shifting something in relationship to yourself and your own desires and your own legitimacy,. If you're waiting for them to grant it, you may wait forever and see. We teach people how to relate to us based on how we relate to ourselves in front of them.