I talk a lot in the program about gaining getting. It's embedded in your book You don't say it exactly like this, but you know learn to get pleasure from saying I don't know. The more armor you can take off and still feel safe because if someone says you're ugly or you're dumb Really really what's why it's in theory? It should not bother you even if it's true. We seem to have this systematic Misperception of how bad it would be.