Speaker 1
So when I was 15 years old, I got sent to a military academy to whip me into shape. And while I was at the military academy, there was an obstacle course because physical punishment and physical exertion is a big part of how we sort of help people build self-esteem, right? If we're at a military academy. And there was one particular part of the obstacle course that I absolutely hated. And it was this thing where, I don't know if you guys have seen this, but it's like, there are these logs of increasing height, there are three of them. So the first one is maybe a little bit above your your hips. So what you have to do is jump over the log. So you kind of boost yourself over this horizontal log and you land on the other side. And then after you boost yourself over the first one, there's a higher one, this one is a kind of at about chest height. So now you have to really jump up high, swing your legs over so you can get on the other side. And then the last one was maybe about throat height. So now you really have to like reach up, jump up, and then swing your legs over the top and sort of land on the other side. Now, the problem with this exercise is that it is part of an obstacle course, right? So it's not like you just do these three and then you're done. There are tons of exercises or obstacles that you have to go through. You have to climb to the top of a rope. So by the time I get to this part, I am exhausted. And there's a drill sergeant who's yelling at me. So even if I'm exhausted, like no one really cares, right? There's a line of people behind me. They start moving around me because you start one at a time. They start passing me up and I start to feel weak and worse about myself and all that good stuff. But that's not really the big problem. The big problem is that when I try to overcome an obstacle, what I end up doing is having to dig deep, right? Because I'm huffing, I'm puffing, I rest for a second, I give it my all and I go over the first bar. And then I hit the second bar where I jump up and I try to go over it. And I still remember this moment, I swung my leg up hard because when you're really tired, you have to have a burst of energy and toss your leg up over it. And my kneecap slammed into the wood and it hurt like a, and so then I was exhausted. And the biggest problem that I ran into, I managed to finally get over the second one after like six or seven attempts. I'm huffing, I'm puffing, I'm exhausted, my legs are tired. And then I try to get over the third one. And I try once and I try again, and my legs just won't go over. I can lift myself up, but then that gets a little bit weaker. And every attempt that I make makes it harder for the next attempt to succeed. It's not a situation of if at first you don't succeed, try, try again. It's if at first you don't succeed, each attempt will become increasingly difficult. And this is not just localized to this particular obstacle course. This is true of life, right? So if you apply for a job and you get rejected once, if you apply for a job again and you get rejected a second time, if you get rejected a third time and a fourth time and a fifth time, what happens to your chances of success with each subsequent rejection? I experienced this firsthand when I was applying to medical school, getting rejected from 40 medical schools in my first year and then 40 medical schools in my second year did not increase my chances over time. So this is a myth that people who have hope can believe in, right? Because in their experience, if at first you don't succeed and you give it another shot, like since the general cards are in your favor, you roll the dice a second time and it turns out that things work out okay.