Relationship Course - Self Regulation Challenges

A lot of times these, you know, in the relationship course, i talk about walled off people versus boundary less well. So it's a pattern that's a self regulation challenge on both sides. But the boundary is with yourself. That's where you start. I'm trying to feel ok about me by getting her to love me in the way i want her to. I can't do that. And so this isn't just about her, or being a desirable guy to her, but about being a desirable person to yourself,. About feeling more whole and a. The ability to handle ourselves is adult development. It's not easy. We are validation gluttons.