Chronic stress sometimes can be also a result of unresolved post trauma so it could be anything that's happened in childhood from an accident to sexual abuse to neglect you know difficult parents. These people do also come out of that with core beliefs like I'm not good enough, unlovable or unluckable I'm worthless and then there will be then those same things that can create a chronic stress in people's lives. They manage it with sexual compositivity but they don't even realize that it's all linked back to to some events that's happening in childhood yeah. It's very very quite common for people to have a very very bad or busy stressful work week and on the weekend they binge
In this episode, Hannah is joined by Silva Neves, who is a psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist and author, to dispel all the myths around sex addiction and give us a better framework to view sexual behaviour through. Silva talks about the difference between the public idea of sex addiction and the understanding of it in a sex therapy clinic, and gives us a rundown on the definition of addiction and so how sex and porn addictions don't fit into it. Hannah and Silva then discuss compulsive sexual behaviours, which is what someone who might think they are a porn addict could be experiencing, and the causes of these behaviours and the potential distress they can cause.
CW: Discussion of sexual trauma. Main discussion begins at 40:11. Please skip this episode if you need to and look after yourself!
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http://zen.ai/doingit✨MORE ABOUT SILVA NEVES✨
Silva Neves is a COSRT-accredited and UKCP-registered psychosexual and relationship
psychotherapist, and a trauma psychotherapist. He is a Pink Therapy Clinical Associate. He
sees individuals and couples presenting with a wide range of sex and relationship issues.
Silva specialises in working with sexual trauma and compulsive sexual behaviours.
Silva is a Course Director for CICS (Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology) and speaks
internationally. Silva is the author of Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians (2021, Routledge).
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