From never double texting and taking days to respond back, to giving mixed signals and posting thirst traps just to get a reaction - we hear how you feel about “doing the dance”, and if playing hard to get is a necessity in dating, or if it’s just toxic.

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The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.