Is Your Ex a Wiggle Worm?

Guilt is one of those emotions that can help us make good steps to getting back in alignment with where we want to be and how we want to reflect that. He's not your spicy dance partner. Unfortunately, although it sounds like it was great sex because he saw a bowling ball come out of your hoo ha. And I want the, I want this guilt to be. What are some other emotions that we can use as tools or like training wheels towards growth, but also don't ultimately define us.