Adam Gries and Rie Yano are both startup founders now building in the longevity space (Vitalism). They discuss their approach to partnership, from their serendipitous first meeting (started as a misunderstanding) to building a 50/50 marriage while running companies and raising children. They examine why great relationships shouldn't require constant work, how they maintain true equal responsibilities, and why finding the right partner parallels finding an exceptional co-founder.

Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co

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TIMESTAMPS:

(00:00) Intro and Preview

(01:50) "The One": Their Unique Meeting Story

(08:25) "Co-locating": Their Innovative Long-Distance Approach

(19:39) "Work is for Fools": Their Anti-Work Philosophy

(23:05) Sponsor: Relationship Hero

(24:40) The One Hard Thing - What Relationships Are Able to Handle

(30:21) Highest Tension Moments: Working Together & Lemonade Incident

(37:23) The True 50-50 Partnership

(40:56) Systems for Success

(45:05) Practical Hacks: Google Calendars & "Airing of Grievances"

(47:19) Life board of directors meetings

(52:16) On Men Doing More

(57:13) Full Stack Parents

(59:10) Monogamy: Intentional Choice or Default?

(1:00:38) Chasing Longevity: Supporting a Partner with Unconventional Goals

(1:03:26) Money & Career Dynamics

(1:08:32) Modern Parenting Approach

(1:11:18) If You Knew Then? Tolerating Pain & Cutting Losses

(1:14:20) The Illusion of Difficulty: How to Find a Great Match

(1:17:49) Finding Your "Three Sigma" Match

(1:21:21) Closing Thoughts & Final Advice