You are living in a world where there is, your assumption is that there is not an equal and opposite reaction. You can't surrender the fact that people may not be able to love you. Let go of trying to control other eople's perceptions. And once you do that, you're going to stop investing your energy into a futile problem. If you're not investing your energy in a futile problem, lo and behold, you may start investing it in things that can actually bear fruit.