A lot of people out there who have parents kind of like this, right? And these are parents who don't take the time or effort em or themselves. So they end up raising their kids in a hand off, hands off way. It wrigt. There's evidence that shows that the way that you are parented will in turn influence the way thatyou parent. Parents who are physically abused are more likely to physically abuse their kids. The barrier to becoming apparent is pretty low, but the responsibility of being a good mother is high.