A Conversation About Sham, Pleasure and Appearance

Rahim thouer is a social worker and psychotherapist. He says he's always been obsessed with the question of slaying shame. Shame can be experienced in the moment, while conjuring up a lifetime of rejection,. Fear, embarrassment and the like. Ah, one last thing i'll say about shame: as queer people, we live in a world that tells us from a very young age what is desirable... And when you're reminded of not fitting in, those hierarchies get activated because you start to understand yourself through some one else's gaze.