Stop Doing Your Mom's Work

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"I've been doing therapy totally to get to this goal that I had in my mind of finding forgiveness for my mom," she said. "My approach to therapy so often in the beginning and still my instinct is to like force my way to the goal." She says her therapist told her: Stop trying to do your mom's work.

1. Why no one talks about the complicated feelings of freedom after the death of a toxic loved one.

2. How Jennette’s mom enforced extreme calorie restriction to control and bond with Jennette, and the moment her body finally said, No.

3. What led Jennette to step away from acting after her iCarly stardom, and why she doesn’t think “resilient” is a compliment.

4. How Jennette found herself still “doing her mother’s work” in therapy – and how she stopped forcing forgiveness.

5. Why – when you’ve grown up in an environment of chaos and volatility – healthy, comfortable relationships can feel boring.

6. Jennette's relationship with her inner voice – and how she understands and experiences Obsessive-compulsive disorder today.

CW // eating disorders, toxic relationships

About Jennette:

Jennette McCurdy is the New York Times Bestselling author of I’m Glad My Mom Died, which stayed at #1 on the NYT bestseller list for eight consecutive weeks and has remained on the list for 24. In her memoir, Jennette dives into her struggles as a former child actor—including eating disorders, addiction, and a complicated relationship with her overbearing mother—and how she retook control of her life. Jennette has been honored as part of the 2022 TIME100 Next list, and her debut fiction novel will be released in 2024.

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