You're trying to take who you are and mould it into whatever the check boxes of the job that you're applying or your boss wants, or the person you're trying to date. And every year that goes by, there's going to be one more box that you got to check because of the mass nature of thingsand so you start to lose yourself,. Then you start to burn out. And then you nearly don't even know who you are or what you want," she says.