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Dear HBR: cover image

Feeling Disrespected

Dear HBR:

CHAPTER

How Do You Deal With a New Employee?

i've been working in my division for almost two years. I feel she doesn't respect me and would rather work directly for the v p. She gets upset if she feels like you're challenging her, even if you're just trying to improve a process. i know she won't be able to change everything with a snap of her fingers. Should i stay, or should i go?

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Speaker 2
Yett,
Speaker 3
seems like the repair efforts can be really hard. There's a sense that you're going to react defensively, and that can conto just make the situation worse.
Speaker 2
Wha the situation may be, you really want to think through how you're going to tackle it before you sit down with your manager or colleague and make a game plan, and be thoughtful about it to insure that you know you handle it in a way that doesn't come across as defensive and is constructive.
Speaker 4
All
Speaker 3
right, first question.
Speaker 1
Dear h b r, i've been working in my division for almost two years. A week after i started, one of my supervisors left. Within four months, my colleague doing similar work left. In my first year, we lost 12 full time staff from a 21 person group. Finally, a new hire filled my former colleague's position, and i became her supervisor. I now report directly to the v p of our division. But i've been having issues with this new employee. I feel she doesn't respect me and would rather work directly for the v p. The v p and other senior managers encourage this because they often go directly to her on projects. I sometimes don't know what she's working on. I've talked to all parties involved about the situation, but nothing has changed. I struggle with the v p in other ways too. If you get on her bad side, even for a typo and an email, you may get the silent treatment for a few as. She has the we've always done it this way mine set. She gets upset if she feels like you're challenging her, even if you're just trying to improve a process. She's 77, but doesn't plan to retire for another two years. I've stayed for the occasional work high when we complete a big project, but mostly i'd feel guilty for leaving an already stretched, thin group. Here's the good news. Our institution is about to get a new president who seems to have a great set values and vision. I got to know her a little bit before the announcement. She seems to have genuine interest in me and my work. She could turn our division around and also make the entire institution better. But i know she won't be able to change everything with a snap of her fingers. Would she wait until after my boss retires to make any big moves in our division? I don't know if i can stay with a manager and an employee who don't respect me for that long. Should i stay, or should i go?
Speaker 2
My initial reaction is, i can absolutely understand why she's upset. Nobody wants to feel underminded at work im or feel that, you know, they're stretched too thin and don't have that work life balance without being rewarded. Yet.

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