How to Create Coherence

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i'm not one of those people that believes like everything happens for the best or for a reason. So when i say coherence, it doesn't arily mean that t's a deterministic formula that's predestined to happen. There can be a lot of randomness in life. My father was a statistician. Is peached ean biostatistics and he was a professor. He used to say that god's greatest miracle is creating randomness in the universe. And so foor people who lack coherence, and they feel like they're just kind of like jetsom being tossed about on the surf of life,. It's making them intensely unhappy and uncomfortable.

Arthur Brooks is a bestselling author, social scientist, and the President of the American Enterprise Institute. He teaches Leadership and Happiness at the Harvard School of Business.

In this episode, Eric and Arthur discuss happiness as well as his book, Love Your Enemies: How Decent People Can Save America From the Culture of Contempt.

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Arthur Brooks and I Discuss What It Takes to Find Happiness and…

His book, Love Your Enemies: How Decent People Can Save America From the Culture of Contempt
The four extrinsic things that feed off fear are money, power, pleasure, and fame
The four intrinsic things that feed off love are faith, family, friendships, and meaningful work
How happiness requires meaning and having meaning requires challenge and/or difficulty
The three aspects of meaning are coherence, purpose, and significance
How writing out the thing you learned from a bad experience can bring meaning to it
Learning to find significance in the small things
How we need to stop living in the future and appreciate being in the present
The freeing idea that nobody really cares like we think they do
The more you judge others, the more you will feel judged
The therapy for feeling insecure is to stop judging and start observing
The link between humor and happiness
How we should reject grimness
Rejecting the expectations of the holidays can lead to more happiness

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