You Don't Build a Relationship With a Guy Because You Didn't Trust Him

"Being truthful and being honest does not give you permission to be a jerk," he says. "Jujitsu is a very nuanced game where you're constantly trying to set things up for the next move" Being blunt, honest leaders are hated because they don't have any tact or maneuvering skills that other people can use against them in battle. You've got to take ownership of your actions when someone lets you down as a leader.