In this episode, my guest is Dr. Jen Douglas, a Stanford professor, licensed psychologist, and executive coach specialising in perfectionism. Dr. Jen explores the complexities of perfectionism and its impact on self-worth. She delves into how societal pressures and family dynamics shape our perceptions of success and contribute to perfectionist tendencies. Dr. Jen shares practical tools for overcoming perfectionism, embracing imperfection, and fostering creativity, while encouraging listeners to prioritise joy and play in their lives.
Key Takeaways:
- Perfectionism is driven by a deep fear of not being perfect or loveable.
- Self-worth is often tied to external achievements and societal standards of success.
- Perfectionism can lead to anxiety and a state of paralysis.
- Competition and family dynamics play crucial roles in fostering perfectionist behaviours.
- Unconditional acceptance is key to overcoming perfectionism.
- Adults need to engage in play to nurture creativity and mental well-being.
- Redefining success beyond external achievements is necessary for personal fulfilment.
- Small steps towards imperfection can lead to significant personal growth.
- Embracing joy, creativity, and play is essential for mental health.
Chapters:
00:00 - Understanding Perfectionism and Its Roots
02:57 - The Impact of Perfectionism on Self-Worth
06:09 - Perfectionism and Competition: The Hidden Drivers
08:57 - Family Dynamics and the Development of Perfectionism
11:57 - The Journey of Overcoming Perfectionism
14:51 - Redefining Success and Personal Expectations
18:01 - The Role of Play and Creativity in Adulthood
20:57 - Practical Tools for Embracing Imperfection and Finding Joy
Connect with Dr. Jen Douglas:
Instagram: @dr.jen.douglas
Website: drjenniferdouglas.com/courses
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