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And then they brought them back into just imagine playing the piano and the same parts of their brain lit up. In fact, there's been recent research that shows that 80% of the neural activity is achieved just by imagining the action. But the biggest takeaway from this was that the brain doesn't know the difference between imagination and reality. Now, why is that important? Because as you begin to imagine a future, and we could call that desire, we could call that your goals, we could call that your dreams, no matter what it is, you literally start to experience as if it's actually happening. There's a change in the neural networks of your brain. Another way of looking at this is you build a memory of something that hasn't happened yet. And that is an installation inside of you of a how that will unfold over time. So when you dream, when you imagine, you begin to activate what I would call the internal how. But when you think you need to know the how or that your current circumstances prevent you from what you want, like you don't have enough time, you don't have enough money, nobody's ever done it before, you don't spend any time living in the vision, and you live in the limitation. And so this is what I really want to unpack at a deeper level with you today. And again, I've talked about other episodes how on multiple occasions this has occurred in my own life. It was over 10 years ago that I had been single for a decade. I'd just gotten through my drug and alcohol recovery. I had some sobriety. I felt like I was ready for a relationship. Over the course of my life, I'd accumulated a tremendous amount of information about the type of woman that I wanted to meet. And I thought Colombian women were the most beautiful women in the world. And I made a decision at the end of 2022 that I was going to, I didn't know how, but I was going to meet a beautiful Colombian woman and make her my wife. And two weeks later, I met now Carol Gutierrez-Berr, the beautiful Colombian woman who is my wife. And it was through an extraordinary set of synchronicities and coincidences, many of which already seem to have been stacked up. I had torn my shoulder. And for six months, I'd been driving from Orlando to Sarasota, Florida to work with a specialist there. And it happened to be his birthday two weeks after I made this decision, two weeks after I activated this vision. And so I went down and I spent the weekend with him and we picked a restaurant to go out to dinner. And that's where I met my wife. And I can actually look at all the things that led up to me even selecting that practitioner in Sarasota, Florida, not even where I lived. I ran into another woman who I had dated a long time ago at an airport and she had been having some health challenges. And I mentioned to her that I had torn my shoulder. She said, you need to go see this guy in Sarasota. And I think about how I met that woman in the first place. It's like all these cause and effects that literally make it almost an infinite impossibility that I would ever meet my wife. And yet it happened. And it happened looking backwards through a mechanism, through a mechanics. I can see what the plan ended up being, but I never could have anticipated or predicted it. And it's not just how we manifest our soulmate, but how we create anything in our lives. Because there are things that you're experiencing in your life right now that you don't want, that you'd like to change. Or there's a vision that's trying to work itself through you, a calling that you have, that you continue to dismiss because it seems too big, because you seem like you're not the person who could achieve that. I mean, you think about what the Wright brothers must have been up against. There was no flying technology at that time that was an engine powered, and yet they had a vision. And through trial and error, they were able to literally bring a miracle into the world. Thomas Edison, same thing with the light bulb. 10,000 experiments later, he could look backwards and go, well, this is how I created what I created. But he didn't know the how when he started. You look at the Revolutionary War, it was 50 some odd men and the powerful woman who stood behind them that had a vision for something greater, a place where there could be civil liberties and freedom of speech and freedom of religion, freedom of expression. It was an idea. And so that idea materialized into a plan, which ended up being the Revolutionary War. And you even study what happened during the Revolutionary War. I love this book called Washington, A Life by Ron Chernow. It's like miracle after miracle after miracle unfolded in order to produce the result, but nothing that could have been predicted. And so what I'm suggesting here is that you need to start dreaming big and not worrying about the how. I'm encouraging you to start asking for change in your life and really just deciding that there will be change in your life and it's just a matter of time before your reality catches up with that change without needing to know the how and without being restricted by your current circumstance or situation. Your current circumstance and situation is old news. You've created today based on thoughts and beliefs and vision that you had yesterday and for weeks before and months before and years before. Today's already happened. But you can transform your tomorrow or your next week or your next month or your next year by changing your thinking today. That's why in Romans it said, be not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. And so we end up limiting our possibilities by thinking that we need to know the how around whatever change we want to create. Maybe you've been stuck in a chronic health condition. You've gone from doctor to doctor to doctor. And so you're trying to figure out how to be well, rather than just deciding that you're going to be well and living in the imagination and the vision of that wellness. Same thing with financial insecurity. Same thing with growing your business. When we move into the how-to quickly, it can devastate the materialization of our vision. So what's really important to understand if you want to achieve your full potential, if you want to create beauty and prosperity and peace and joy and abundance in your life, is that you don't need to know the how. So I want you to set that aside right now. I want you to think about one thing that you want right now, and don't worry about the how. The how becomes a natural byproduct of non-resistance. Neville Goddard, one of the great mystical teachers, talked about this. He said, you should live your life assuming the wish fulfilled, but you can't assume the wish fulfilled. You can't assume that the desire that you have will materialize into your life. If you think that part of your job is to figure out the how your job is to not figure out the how you say, well, Dave, that doesn't make any sense. I mean, if I look at anything that's ever been created of any kind of meaning or value in the world, there's a how I'm not suggesting that a how will not occur. A how will unfold, but not because you figured it out. The how is left to a power greater than you. Now you'll participate in that how, you'll participate in the plan, you'll have thoughts and you'll have ideas and you'll take action on them. But you don't have thoughts and ideas as a result of trying to figure out the plan or thinking you need to figure out the plan. You have thoughts and ideas that you'll take action on that you'll look back on and go, wow, that was part of how this thing unfolded by being a non-resistance. And one of the greatest forms of resistance is actually this misunderstanding that you're supposed to figure out the how there's a great plan at work here i like how eisenhower said planning is essential but plans are useless there's a great plan here that's actually unfolding which is the plan of your higher power it's god's plan and you will be a part of it but it's not your job it's not your responsibility to figure out the how i've told the story that carol and i had decided that for our first event, we were going to have over 300 people and we were way short of that about two weeks before the event. And so I'm in Atlanta giving a presentation to 15 business owners that I was invited to by a friend of mine who really loved my work and was part of a business networking group. And after I gave that presentation, I got back on my flight and my phone happened to ring. My dad was calling me. I was actually sitting in a seat I wasn't even supposed to be sitting in because when I was going to get on the airplane, I'm really tall. I'm like six foot seven. I joked with the person who was taking the tickets because I was in coach. I said, you know, they should really upgrade people based on height because I saw that I was like number four on the upgrade list, but there was only one seat available. And the guy thought it was really funny. He goes, don't tell anybody. And he upgraded me. So I'm sitting in a seat. I'm not even supposed to be sitting in. My dad calls me, not a thing that I did. I started explaining to him the presentation that I just gave, which is around the concepts that I'm sharing with you. And the guy sitting next to me is overhearing the conversation. When I get off the phone with my dad, the guy goes, wow, that was pretty mind blowing. Like everything that you're talking about right here. It's like next generational personal growth. He said, what are you doing this weekend? I said, well, I'm just flying back to Orlando. That's where I live. I have a big event coming up in two weeks there. I don't have any plans. I'm just prepping for my event. He goes, well, you have plans now. I'm bringing in 800 financial advisors to a conference that I'm running and you're going to come on Sunday and I'm going to give you an hour on stage to share with everybody exactly what you just shared with your dad. We were about 60 tickets short of our 300 person goal. I went and spoke at that event. He let me sell tickets. 60 people ran to the back of the room. We hit our goal. I could have never designed the how. And so when you think the how is your responsibility, all this energy that could be being directed towards things you can control start to go into things you can't control. In other words, live in the vision, live in the decision, know that you will be a part of the how. You will receive your part of the how and the action that you should take. But your job is not to figure out the how. You're spending way too much time trying to figure out the how. And as a result of that, it's frustrating you. It's moving you into what I would call a primal state. It's moving you into frustration, fear. Why isn't it happening quick enough? It's not happening quick enough because you're not letting go of the reins because you think your job is to figure out the how and it's not. The how already exists. It will make its way to you and through you when you let go of it. And so when you think you need to know the how, what do you do? Well, you start to live in desperation. For a little while, it might be enthusiastic. But if you're living in, for example, not as much financial abundance and prosperity as you want, you might feel trapped. You think you need to figure out the how. How do you start making more money? How do you create more prosperity into your life? You look around and you go, well, I have a career. There's really no way out. I mean, there's only so much I can get in terms of my raise. I have my monthly cost of living. There's not as much coming in as there is going out. I've got this credit card debt. You're trying to figure out the how. What I'm suggesting is you just decide and you decide in the space of knowing the how is not your responsibility. You decide in the space of knowing that there is a how. It will be miraculous as it shows up and unfolds. It will involve hunches and intuition and thoughts and ideas that you will pursue, probably not even realizing that they're part of the plan when you pursue them. It will include the coordination and synchronization of other people and their ideas and the activation of external resources that will meet you in the form of rendezvous or synchronicities. And then you'll produce the result. And you'll look back and go, oh my God, that's how I produced the result. I played a game really early on as I was starting to realize all of this, where I had a job. I'd saved up a little bit of money, about $20,000. I had a bunch of credit card debt. I had two homes in foreclosure and I made a decision.