Why Arousal Requires More Than Readiness

Let's talk about why foreplay might be the most misunderstood thing in your sex life… because the way most couples think about it is exactly backwards. In this episode I'm breaking down why foreplay doesn't start in the bedroom and what to do when your partner goes straight to penetration every single time, when the sex has gone stale and neither of you knows how to say it, when one person won't reciprocate, and when a medical situation forces you to get creative in all the best ways.

If you have ever wished your partner understood what you actually need before sex even starts, this one is for you.

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Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

02:15 Foreplay Starts After the Last Orgasm

04:00 Why Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire Changes Everything

06:00 The Psychology of Arousal and What Gets You There

07:30 Call 1: He Goes Straight to Penetration Every Time

10:00 How to Tell a Sensitive Partner What You Actually Need

13:00 The Compliment Sandwich and Why It Works

15:30 Call 2: Our Sex Has Gone Stale and I Don't Know How to Fix It

18:00 What to Do When Foreplay Has Disappeared From Your Relationship

21:00 Call 3: My Partner Won't Reciprocate Foreplay

24:00 How to Ask for What You Want Without Making It a Fight

27:00 Call 4: I Have Never Had an Orgasm

30:00 Why Most People Skip the Most Important Step

33:00 Your Homework: 30 Minutes Three Times a Week

35:00 Call 5: I Can't Have Sex for 6 Weeks After My Procedure

36:00 How to Stay Sexually Connected When Penetration Is Off the Table

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