Are You Always Avoiding Splitting?

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I can feel myself understanding passivity in this way, because it's like the structure of being dominant is very clear. And now when you take that away, and then you're left in this other pot of like, I could decide all of these other options, it's scary. It's like, wait, where do I even fucking begin? Well, you begin by picking the kids up from school. So you're not like me with what I just did. I just split. Yeah. Is that why you're such a good listener? Are you always avoiding splitting? Because sometimes when I watch you do the show and I think clearly, she's going to tell that guy, he

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2. We can stop asking whether what’s missing is a “want” or a “need” – and the question to ask instead.

3. How to use what most frustrates you about your partner to bring you closer.

4. How to start thinking of our partnerships as our own mini political systems.

5. What to do if your partner won’t go to therapy, or if you’re feeling invisible in your relationship.

About Dr. Guralnik:

Dr. Orna Guralnik is a psychoanalyst and writer, who serves on the faculty of NYU PostDoc, National Institute for the Psychotherapies, the Stephen Mitchel Center, and the editorial boards of Psychoanalytic Dialogues and Studies in Gender & Sexuality. Her writing centers on the intersection of psychoanalysis, dissociation, and cultural studies. She has completed the filming of four seasons of the Docu-series Couples Therapy, airing on Showtime.

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