Beshalee Eve was diagnosed with a rare form of epilepsy when she was 14 years old. Her parents decided the best way to help their daughter through this time was not through killing ourselves, but by finding ways to make the journey a little easier. Here's what they learned: If you focus on what you lack, you will lose what you have. And if you focus onwhat you have, you will gain what you lack. For insecure overachievers? What we want to do is unlock the investment between us and our relationship. To increase our return on invested effort, just reward us for being thankful.