The Effect of Fear on Desire

Stendahl wrote his famous book on love, in which he described the effect of fear on desire. Never let your targets get too comfortable with you. They need to feel fear and anxiety. Show them some coldness, a flash of anger they didn't expect. Be irrational. If necessary, there is always the trump card, a break up. Let them feel that they have lost you forever. The reconciliation will be intense. Falling in love means literally falling, losing control, a mix of fear and excitement.