i think it's just a, you know, for better or worse peoplea desire to be ostracized. They don't want to be vilified or ridiculed for their views. And so this is actually part of what happens where, like, initially it was just uncool to talk about marriage and stuff,. Then, pretty soon, if you talked about it other the norm became, like, how dare you say that? i feel uncomfortable sinigor. Maybe people should get married before they you know, lake, i'm some sort ofike conservative from the 19 eighties. I'm going to start shutting down comedians and whatever. Y, that's not who i am, and i